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11 Leadership Quotes to Make You Think

Quotes from individuals who have gone before us down the path of life are inspiring and instrumental in shaping who we are. They shape who we become. When we read and digest information, it helps shape our worldview on that particular subject.

I wrote a book on servant leadership as my final project for my Master of Arts in Organizational Leadership. To date, it was one of the most difficult projects I have taken on. Instead of it sitting on my hard drive, I have decided to have the book edited to self-publish on Amazon. I have had the draft edited but have not yet done the revisions. I guess it is time for me to take my own advice, make appointments with myself, and begin to work on those revisions.

In the book, I discuss the difference a leader can make by being a certain type of leader. I talk about the difference between leading and managing. Communicating clearly, empowering followers, and showing the way are what set apart mediocre leaders from great leaders. I think the book is chalk full of good information and hope you do to.

Those in positions of leadership need to be intentional about their own development as well as the development of their followers. Being a leader is not a position that should be taken lightly. Unfortunately, we have all seen the individuals who have somehow made their way to leading organizations who probably should have minimal interaction with the others.

The task of the leader is to get his

Leadership quotes can inspire us to be better leaders. Below are 11 leadership quotes to make you think. Some of these are in my book, others will be added.

11 Leadership Quotes to Make You Think

  1. Effective leadership is putting first things first. Effective management is discipline, carrying it out. —Stephen Covey
  1. You Don’t Need a Title to be a Leader. —Multiple Attributes
  1. Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it. —General Dwight Eisenhower
  1. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant. —Max DePree
  1. Leadership is a potent combination of strategy and character. But if you must be without one, be without the strategy. —Norman Schwarzkopf
  1. A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way. —John Maxwell
  1. What you do has far greater impact than what you say. —Stephen Covey
  1. You manage things; you lead people. – Rear Admiral Grace Murray Hopper
  1. You don’t lead by pointing and telling people some place to go. You lead by going to that place and making a case. —Ken Kesey
  1. The task of the leader is to get his people from where they are to where they have not been. – Henry Kissinger
  1. The supreme quality for leadership is unquestionably integrity. Without it, no real success is possible, no matter whether it is on a section gang, a football field, in an army, or in an office. – Dwight D. Eisenhower

These quotes are all great. However, a quote is no good unless we understand how to apply it appropriately in our leadership context.

In Conclusion…

There are so many great leadership quotes from many great leaders. With the internet, quotes are available at our finger tips. As I go back over my first draft, I undoubtedly will add more quotes as they fit into the text.

Do you have a favorite leadership quote? Share below!

Here’s to the Journey!

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3 Areas to Prepare Beforehand to Make the Most of Your Vacation


It is now the middle of summer and you most likely have either gone on a vacation or are planning on going on your summer vacation soon. The excitement of getting away from it all can often be overshadowed by all that has to be accomplished before you leave.

There are different types of vacations that we take. It’s different when it’s just you going somewhere and when it’s you and your kids and your entire family. When I go on vacation with my husband, we stay up late and sleep in and lay out on lounge chairs with a drink in hand. Vacationing with kids is the same as being at home except they are more tired because they miss naps. And they get up at 5:45 am instead of their usual 6:30 wake up time. Although it can be exhausting, it is also a lot of fun.

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I love to vacation. We have been in a stressful season of our family life, with one thing happening after another. Luckily, I have a great partner in this life who is my rock and together we navigate as obstacles arise. I couldn’t be more thankful for him.

To vacation means to vacate your life. Unless you are able to take a long vacation, often this isn’t possible. You still think about your job or something at home or if people are going to come look at the house you are selling. At the same time, you so desperately need a break from your life.

How can you ensure you have the best vacation possible? Make the most of your vacation. Here are 3 areas to prepare beforehand to make the most of your vacation.

1. Work

Before you leave work for your vacation, try to wrap up as many loose ends as possible. Make the phone calls you have been putting off and return emails. Tell your boss where you are at with different projects. Hand off any assignments to co-workers who might be overseeing your projects while you are gone. Write down any pending items you need to take care of when you return. You won’t worry as much if you know it’s being taken care of or if you have a plan to take care of it when you return.

2. Home

The best thing we do in preparing for vacation is hiring a house sitter. It is usually our neighbors son (who happens to be an old co-worker) who watches our house and dogs. The first time he watched the house and dogs I kept asking my husband to check in with him to make sure everything was ok. Now that he has done it so many times I don’t have to worry about it. I know it is being taken care of by a reliable college student. Having a house sitter lined up ensures items at home are being tended to.

3. Plan

Know what there is to do.

If you are going on a vacation to a location you go often, then you know what there is to do. If it’s a new town or a different part of town that you are staying, do some research beforehand to see how you can spend your time. If you happen to know someone who lives in the town you are visiting you might be able to get some insider information from a local on things to do and places to go. With kids, we do a day of planned activity (like the zoo or theme park) and then a low key day (like the beach) so we can ensure they get a nap in their beds. This helps for all of our sanity.

And While You are on Vacation

Be all there.

It can be easy to focus on the things back home or get sucked into social media. You will only have that one vacation at this age in your life with your family. My girls will only be this exact age once. Focus on the time you have to spend with them. Give each other grace while living in close quarters while also lacking sleep. If it’s just you and your spouse, I’m sure you are getting plenty of rest without the kids. Make lasting memories with your family. The hustle and bustle of life and responsibility will return soon enough. Embrace the time together.

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In conclusion…

Vacations can be stressful. I’m in the thick of an awesome vacation with my husband, kids, my parents, sister, bro-in-law, and niece. There are 9 people living together in extremely close quarters. Since vacations can be stressful, get rid of as much stress as possible before you leave home and embrace all that your vacation has to offer.

How do you prepare when going on vacation? Let me know what I missed!

Here’s to the Journey!

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4 Reasons You Need to Finish What You Start

I love to jump at the chance of new opportunities. I thrive in growing myself both personally and professionally. I have always loved to write. In an online community I am in, I came across the opportunity to join a freelance writing course.

As I’ve shared before, we all have something to say. We all have a voice, a message, that needs to be heard. This course, 30 Days or Less to Freelance Writing Success, was to provide a step by step guide to starting a freelance writing career.

Like a lot of things I start, I didn’t quite finish in the amount of time I thought I would. But I vowed to finish the course, and I did!

Click here to head on over to Horkey Handbook to learn 4 Reasons You Need to Finish What You Start.

Finish What You Start

Here’s to the Journey!

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Why Self-Care is Important: 3 Steps to Develop a Self-Care Routine

As a parent, as a mom, I give and give of myself. There is always something to get done, a question to be answered, and some love to give.

If I take 5 minutes for myself, I often feel guilty. Feel guilty because these little people need me and there is always so much to do. Did I mention that already?

From the moment I wake up in the morning until I go to bed, my mind is constantly running. When I’m by myself and given the opportunity for self-care, a thought about the kids or something I need to do at home will pop in my mind.

When I have time for self-care, I feel guilty.

But it is so important.

Self-care is like the drop down mask on an air plane that provides oxygen. If you have ever been on an airplane, yo
u know that before the plane takes off the flight attendants give safety instructions. One part of the safety instructions includes what to do if the air masks drop down from above your seat. The first time I heard them say “put your mask on first then help those around you,” I was confused.

Why wouldn’t you help those around you first?

This is often what moms do. We want to help out everyone around us first without regard to making sure we are mentally and physically healthy to take care of those around us.

Why is self-care important? You have to help yourself before you can help others.

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The reality is, we need to put our air mask on first so we are able to better help and care for those around us. We need the oxygen to be able to get the oxygen to those around us. If we don’t take the time to recharge, we aren’t our best selves for our spouse and for our kids.

What does self-care look like? It really comes down to what recharges you. For me, it’s reading a good book. It is sitting in those amazing massage chairs getting a pedicure while drinking an iced coffee. Sometimes walking around Target by myself is just what I need. Other times it is meeting a friend for coffee or a drink. If we lived closer to the ocean it would include walking along the beach at my own pace, in awe of how vast the ocean is, deep in my own thoughts.

How do you implement a self-care routine? Here are 3 steps to take to help you develop a self-care routine.

1. Think about What You Enjoy

Think about what relaxes you. What activities recharge you? I shared some of those activities with you above. I used to love to use my husband’s power tools to build planters. Now most of the time I want to pamper myself.

Knowing what relaxes and recharges you requires an awareness of what you enjoy. If you don’t know what you enjoy, think about the activities you used to do before you were so busy that brought you the most joy. It might be some of those activities or it might be different depending on the season of life you are in.

Make a list of the things you would do if you had all of the time in the world.

2.Talk to your spouse about your need for self-care

Often our spouse does not know when we are drowning. Sit down with your spouse at a time where there are no other distractions and discuss your need for self-care. Discuss their need for self-care.

When you are able to communicate freely your needs and wants it will allow for a healthier you, a healthier marriage, and you being a healthier parent (if you have kids that is).

This step may not pertain to you, and that is ok. The next step is extremely important.

3. Schedule time for Self-Care into your life

Self-care will not happen unless you schedule it into your already busy life. Putting this time into your calendar will give you margin to develop a self-care routine. You could plan time once a month for you and once a month to get together with a friend. You could plan a day for you get away by yourself. The possibilities are endless. For this to happen, you have to make time and schedule it into your calendar. Set an appointment with yourself.

I know for me, if I don’t schedule it, it will not happen.

Pull out your calendar and make it happen.

In Conclusion…

When I am at the end of my rope and have not taken time for myself, I tend to become annoyed with my spouse more easily and snap at my 3 year old for asking simple 3 year old questions. It is unfair to them, and unfair to me. Understanding the level of self-care you need and how to recharge will lead to a mentally and physically healthier and happier life.

Do you take time for self-care? Let me know below!

Here’s to the Journey!

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