I was at the end of my rope, emotionally, mentally and physically. I realized I couldn’t do it anymore.
How often do you push and push yourself, only to end up in an extremely unhealthy place? For those with dreams and plans, a lot of time and effort goes into accomplishing goals that are outside normal, everyday responsibilities. I seem to do that all too often. I have dreams, plans, and goals. I want to do and accomplish much in this life.
So I push.
Until I am at a breaking point.
When You Are At Your Breaking Point
Emotionally, one can only take so much. The car breaking down. The air conditioner breaking. Our daughter having surgery. My grandma passing away. Job interviews for jobs that meant a major family move. We have had one occurrence after another this summer. When I thought we were done with one situation, another presented itself.
Emotions play into our physical and mental well-being. When we are struggling emotionally, we struggle physically and mentally. The inverse of that is true as well. Physically, I was pushing myself to write a blog post a week, continue with coaching clients, and work as an adjunct professor. This was on top of my full time job, a husband, kids, and a house to manage.
Three weeks ago, I decided to give myself permission to let go.
The drive to do certain things comes from my “achiever” strength. I set goals for myself and I find fulfillment in achieving those goals. I create to-do lists so I can mark the items off of my list. I will even add something on to my to-do list after I have done it so I can cross it off (weird, right?). Yet I know this about myself which is extremely helpful.
Three weeks ago I decided to let everything go that wasn’t a top priority and to simplify my time. I had to go to work and I committed to adjunct; those couldn’t be put aside. What I could put aside was the pressure to write every night, to edit my book, to put that perfect graphic on the blog post, and to have my house spotless.
I had to give myself permission to have a messy house and to not give the baby a bath every night.
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I gave myself permission to be a wife. I gave myself permission to be a mom, to play games with my big girl and giggle with my baby. I gave myself permission to just sit. I never just sit. Oh how this was so good for my soul. I also gave myself permission to be spontaneous and head out of town with my family for the day.
Give yourself permission to let go of the things that are not important. The things that take your time from what truly matters to you. When you know your priorities, you can begin to say no or put aside the items on the to-do list that do not matter.
The Right Action at the Right Time
I realized the amount of information I was consuming a day was not helpful either. Everyone is trying to sell something these days. 8 days to a more beautiful you. 6 steps to make $300k a year. How to double your Instagram followers. We are told by big names like Michael Hyatt that to be a success you have to do x, y, z.
The internet makes everything look so easy. The reality is, it takes hard work and networking to become successful. There is no magic formula. Being bombarded with these messages is not helpful nor healthy.
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Limiting how much time I spent online and with the tv on took a burden off of me that I did not realize I was carrying.
Life can be extremely stressful. There are stresses that we can’t get rid of and unexpected situations that cause emotional turmoil. Playing with your kids, spending time with your family, these are the things that you can never get back. Once time is gone, it is gone. Give yourself permission to not do that one thing you feel you need to do. Cleaning the house or writing that blog? There will be time for that, but don’t let it consume you like it almost did to me.
What is something you can let go of?
Here’s to the Journey!
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I’m SUPER Type A, so this is so true for me too! I’ll add things and do things and run and run until I’m at the end of my rope, frazzled and NOTHING is getting done. When I’m finally boiling over or completely out of gas (always one way or another), I’ll lower the expectations I put on my self. I’ll hire a crew to do the lawn that week, eat and easy meal instead of cooking for an hour (my favorite is Snacky Dinner! We have fresh fruit, cut up cheese crackers and hummus or some sort of protein and it saves me so much time and sanity!). By giving up some of the ‘stuff’ I get back the more important things. Time with my kids listening to them read library books, throwing the ball for the dogs to chase, enjoying sitting and looking at the flowers in my garden. Slowing down and doing less ‘stuff’ is always a good thing!
This is so true, and I know it on so many levels. But remembering it is the hard part. Thanks for helping me to remember this today.
Permission to BE. Beautiful!
I love it. Permission to be.