The world we live in is all about instant gratification.
You want the food warmed fast so you put it in the microwave. You are hungry so you stop at that drive through. You send the text, email, or leave a voice message and you expect to hear back from the person in a short amount of time. This becomes even truer if you see that they have read the text message or email.
All around you see people succeeding. You see the fruits of their labor, but you never see their labor. You see the success that they have and you want it. When it doesn’t happen in the amount of time you think it should take, you give up.
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That is why you won’t succeed.
It isn’t that you are not talented, smart, or capable. You most likely know that there is this thing inside of you that you must achieve. The reality is that you are more than capable but when you fail once or hit a bump in the road, you will most likely give up. Failing is tough. Failing, not learning from your mistakes, and giving up may seem easier in the short term. The reality is, it will lead to further dissatisfaction.
When you find yourself in a place of discouragement and pending failure, remember these three things:
1. Your Why
You started out on this project, business, or weight loss journey for a reason. You had a very specific reason why you were going to put forth the effort. Placing your “why” in visible place will help you stay focused on the goal that you have established.
I have my “why” placed in a couple of places, one in my house and one in my car. This is a daily reminder of where I want to be and why I want to accomplish it.
If your “why” is not compelling enough, then you will give up on your goal. Your “why” needs to be motivating enough to keep going when the going gets tough.
2. Success takes effort
Success takes great effort, and sacrifice.
As I said above, you see the success of others, especially now that we all consume so much information in a day through social media.
You think if you work out for a week you will drop twenty pounds. That you blog for a couple of months and you should have a large following. When you have that product developed it should “fly” off the shelf.
When you hear the stories behind the success, you will hear of the sacrifice of sleep. You will hear that the person got up at 5 am everyday and worked on their dream while everyone else slept. You will see the sacrifice of doing what was “fun” in the eyes of their family and friends, for a time. You will hear of the consistent sacrifices to achieve what they knew they were to achieve.
3. Personal Development
Success often depends on putting forth the resources and time for personal development in your specific area. If your goal is to lose weight, this could mean a financial cost and cost of time for a gym membership, or a workout program that you know can help you achieve the results you want. It may mean purchasing that course on how to become a freelance writer. It may mean reading up on all of the latest information on how to start a business or self-publish a book.
Make your personal development a priority.
Pursuing your dream and passion is noble and right. It is also extremely difficult and comes with ups and downs along the journey. When you know without a shadow of a doubt the thing you are to pursue, pursue it and don’t give up until you have become successful. As we have discussed before, success can look different to each person. Define what success means to you, establish your why, and don’t give up until you have reached success.
What is one of your big, audacious goals? Let me know below!
Here’s to the Journey!
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I love #1 – start with why. If we don’t know WHY we are doing something, we won’t have the motivation to keep going and make it happen! Excellent post!
Thanks Angela! Knowing your why is so important; it is what keeps you going when you want to give up!
I think that #3 is hardest for me. I find it hard to find time to actually do the blogging…finding time to learn photography and other aspects is hard! Maybe I need to take a week off from the actual work here and there to focus on learning how to make the work better.
It is definitely hard! I try to find nuggets of time, fringe hours, that I will focus on my development rather than sit and binge watch Netflix 🙂
Wait…have you been spying on me? I’m so guilty of binging on Netflix after the kids are in bed and I’m worn out. Have you read the book The Fringe Hours? Was it a good read?
Hahaha…I’m just as guilty! And no, I haven’t read it but I have heard good things about the book.
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